How to feel like a bad b*tch

If you are struggling to remember who you are (a bad b*tch), then here’s every tip that helps me, and will hopefully help you feel like a bad bitch.

Step 1 of how to feel like a bad b*tch …

Self respect

There is nothing quite as powerful of a feeling as when you respect yourself and people know that.

This could be in any situation, whether it’s in a relationship, a workplace, a friendship, making sure you have respect for yourself, and not letting anyone walk all over you, is bad bitch behaviour.

How to have self respect:

• Setting boundaries. In every aspect in your life, you have limits, and you need to make sure (or at least try to not let them be pushed).
• Saying no. When your limit has been pushed, you can say no. If there’s something that is being asked of you, or someone is treating you a way you don’t like, you can respectfully say no.
• Take care of yourself. You can still care for other people, whilst you care for yourself. Care for yourself in every aspect of your life, whether that’s your appearance, health, mental health.
• Don’t flake on yourself. You make sure you get places on time for your boss, so you can make sure you’re on time for yourself. If you say you’re going to do something, then make sure you follow through.

There are many podcasts and people on YouTube that are amazing at helping you have respect for yourself.

Step 2 of how to feel like a bad b*tch …

Always smell nice

There is literally nothing that makes me think someone has got their sh*t together more, than when they smell nice.

It levels up a person so much.

You can be that person that walks past someone and smells so good they have to turn around to look at you.

Make sure you absolutely love the scents that you choose, because the more you love it, the more it will radiate off you. It doesn’t even have to be an expensive perfume for it to turn heads.

My favourite scents:

Step 3 of how to feel like a bad b*tch …

Keep good eye contact

i don’t know how many times I have been talking to someone with really good eye contact, and I fold so much.

I instantly am more intimidated by that person, or I just know that they have confidence about themself.

Obviously you have to have some breaks from the eye contact otherwise it would be awkward. But try your best not to look away first!

I know this is hard, but you can do it!

Step 4 of how to feel like a bad b*tch …

Be unapologetically yourself

Listen, bad b*tches don’t care about what anyone thinks about them.

Wear whatever you want without caring what anyone thinks. Even if it’s not trendy or popular. You may have people thinking what on earth is she wearing’, but they will probably also be thinking ‘ I would never have the confidence to wear that.

In every aspect of your life, be 100% yourself. I’m talking…

• Your outfits
• Your personality
• Your beliefs
• What you like
• What you don’t like
• Your makeup

Everyone has different traits, and that is what makes them stand out.

Have you ever met someone that’s so unapologetically themselves that you just automatically have respect for them? Even if you don’t fully agree with what they might say sometimes?

Same. It’s because you know that they don’t care whether you disagree with them or not.

Step 5 on how to feel like a bad b*tch …

Confidence

Even if you have to fake it till you make it honey.

Confidence is key.

How to appear confident (even if you don’t feel it):

• Walk into a room with your head high.
• Always smile and introduce yourself. It shows people that you aren’t intimidated and are very sure of yourself.
• Take up space. When you’re sitting down, don’t try and curl up into a ball, keep your chest up, it exudes confidence.
• Don’t fidget. This is something I am guilty of, it is natural to sit and fidget with something, but this could make you look nervous.
• Maintain eye contact when you are talking to people.
• Wear what you feel confident in and don’t care what anyone else thinks.
• Have good posture. If you’re slouching, you immediately look more shy and nervous. Good posture makes you look as though you aren’t intimidated and you are confident you have a purpose wherever you go.

Step 6 of how to feel like a bad b*tch …

Put effort into your appearance

This means different things to different people, but putting effort into the way you look is a good step in feeling like a bad b*tch.

Different ways of putting effort into your appearance:

• Getting a good skincare routine. I’m not saying you have to have clear skin. I have struggled with acne and I know how bad it can knock your confidence. So getting a skincare routine that makes you feel good definitely makes me feel better.
• Doing your makeup. You may not be into makeup (and that’s okay) but if you are, doing makeup that you feel confident in, is a power move. For me, when I do makeup that looks natural, and makes me look like I am radiating and glowing, that’s when I feel the most confident in. So it’s up to you what makeup you choose to do.
• Jewellery. Jewellery ELEVATES an outfit. I always feel so much more confident when I have jewellery on, because I feel more expensive, therefore feeling a lot more like a bad b*tch.
• Nails. Keeping your nails well groomed is an automatic power move. It makes you look so put together. I swear there’s no better feeling than when you have your nails freshly done. It even makes your rings look better.
• Everything showers. I’m talking oiling your hair, washing and conditioning your hair, body wash, exfoliating, shaving, oiling your body. We are going to be looking like a new fresh woman after this. Not to mention we are going to feel like the baddest, most confident version of ourselves.

Step 7 on how to feel like a bad b*tch …

Self care

Prioritising time to take care of yourself will ensure that you are able to be the most confident and the least stressed version of yourself.

Self care looks different for everyone, here’s some of my favourite forms of self care:

• Reading. I enjoy reading so much, but I barely give myself any time to do it. So when I am intentionally wanting to give myself a self care day, I make sure to give myself some time to get cosy, and read.
• Steam. I have a facial steamer, and there’s nothing better and more relaxing than putting on a podcast or some soothing music, closing my eyes, and doing a facial steam. The only thing that would make it better is if I could somehow lie down and go to sleep whilst doing it. (But I don’t think that would be safe lol).
• Yoga. I always feel so rejuvenated after I do yoga. I would highly recommend doing yoga and feeling all the benefits for your body.
• Comfy clothes all day with no responsibilities. You have to give yourself time to rest, and bad b*tches know their self worth, and the fact that they deserve rest.

I have a post on how to glow up your mind, body, and soul if you are interested: http://bigsisterera.com/your-mind-body-and-soul-glow-up-guide/

Thank you for reading <3

I hope this post helped you in feeling like a bad b*tch! Remember that even if some days you don’t feel like one, you are!

You are the baddest of them all! Thank you for reading this far!